Why Men Love BITCHES!

Posted on April 6, 2011 by

It can be very troubling for a single woman to wrap her mind around this concept.  You might think ridiculous things about yourself such as:  “I am too fat, If only I could afford better clothes, If only I had better hair, It must be my skin if only I had better skin.”  Women are notorious for thinking of all of these ridiculous things as to being the reason why they are unable to sustain a fulfilling relationship. Women like to make it about the things they feel they are unable to change about themselves, as it helps them to not be accountable for the real reasons behind their troubles.

The truth is the women who are having difficulty in relationships are those who are afraid.  These women (Your) are afraid for the guy to see the real you.  You like to ‘hide’ your perceived bad things about yourself and pretend to the guy that you like you are only nice and sweet.  In fact when you begin a relationship you go out of your way to appear flexible and extremely easy to get along with. You pretend to be open, sincere and  loving everything you are doing with the guy you are with, though secretly stuffing your true feelings down inside.  YOU KNOW- the true feelings that you would really be doing these things other than you are so desperate to get a guy you are subordinating your values to hang out with them.

The truth is in the beginning you may not even be aware you are stuffing your true feelings down as you are soooooo desperate to be with a man you will do whatever it takes!  The form you usually take it in is usually is a form of complete surrender to the guy, his wishes and what he would like to do.  All the while never stirring the waters and telling the guy what YOU WOULD REALLY LIKE TO BE DOING!

Now, are you one of these women who look at what they may call BITCHY women and wonder- WHY IN THE WORLD IS THAT HOT GUY with such a bitchy women?  WHAT IN THE WORLD DOES HE SEE IN HER!  How come a bitchy woman is able to get a guy and I am not able to get a guy!  WTF!?

DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS THAT BITCHY WOMEN HAVE OVER YOU!?? They are being real about themselves!   They are not afraid to voice their opinion to the guy they are with.  Bitchy women are willing to tell the guy what they want and how they want it.  Bitchy women are willing to let a guy know when they like something and are also willing to let the guy know what they don’t like.

WHY DO MEN LIKE THESE TYPES OF WOMEN!  DUH!  MEN CAN’T FREAKIN READ YOUR MIND! Men love women who are willing to be their selves!  Men love women who tell them what they like and don’t like so they don’t have to freakin figure it out!  MEN CAN’T STAND WOMEN WHO DON’T HAVE A BACK BONE and say what they like. They only men who like women like that are men who like to be in control of their relationship and have women who subordinate themselves to them.

Want to learn how to love yourself exactly as you are?  Want to learn how to be completely who you are and learn how to be more open in relationships?  Do you want to be less afraid to show your faults to have/obtain the to have your relationship of your dreams?  Want to learn how to express what you really want in your relationships without fear of being you exactly as you are being a turn off to men?  Robinson Equation can assist you with making the steps in your life to allow yourself to not see yourself as a bitch, rather someone who can express herself in her relationship.

CC:  Janis Robinson, MBA at Robinson Equation, Inc.

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The BS of Valentine’s Day

Posted on January 12, 2011 by

It is getting close to that time of year again when people who are in ‘unhappy relationships’ and those who are not in relationships begin to really question the relationship they are in, or their life. You guessed it!  Valentine’s Day brings out all of the depressed hidden feelings to even a greater level as the World celebrates love.

This societal pressure can lead a person to having thoughts such as these:

“OH MY GOD?  WHEN AM I EVER GOING TO HAVE THE RELATIONSHIP OF MY DREAMS?  GOD, when will I finally meet the one?  What is wrong with me?  How do I keep having lousy relationships?”

Have you ever thought or said these words to yourself?  Have you ever felt like it was just you and everyone else around you seemed to be doing great with relationships?  Have you gotten to the point where you feel like throwing up your hands in the air in despair and giving up?

Well it is no wonder many get frustrated by relationships as there is an illusion painted yearly about relationships. There is the false belief taught generation by generation, year by year.  The FALSE BELIEF IS THAT RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD ONLY BE SUPPORTING AND NOT CHALLENGING. The FALSE BELIEF that the first person, who really pays attention to you, must be the one, YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT WORK WITH THEM!  If you don’t, there must be something wrong with YOU!

NO ONE NEEDS TO BE IN RELATIONSHIP!  NO ONE NEEDS ANYONE TO COMPLETE THEM!

You do not NEED a relationship!  You do not need anyone to complete you!

Why am I bothering to say this point twice? For some of you there has been this desperation to have a relationship.  Society’s false beliefs have been forced upon you to make you feel that somehow your life will not be complete without having a “supportive only” relationship. Society- people who are clueless- tell you that YOU WILL NOT BE COMPLETE without a relationship.  THE TRUTH IS, when you feel this way prior to being in relationship- feeling of incompleteness;  guess what, YOU FEEL THE SAME INCOMPLETENESS after you in a relationship!  THE FEELING OF COMPLETENESS comes from within you!  Not from anyone or anything outside of yourself.

What your relationships have been teaching you and will continue to teach you , is how to LOVE YOURSELF! Loving yourself is not about buying nice things, going to spas, going to expensive restaurants, owning a big home, having kids or eating right.

LOVING YOURSELF has to do with loving your perceived faults about yourself.  All of the things you most despise and dislike about yourself, you attract into your relationship.  This happens to help you learn how to love these perceived negative traits and see how these traits serve you and serve others.  Relationships help you learn about the traits of yourself-both positive and negative- that you deny exist within YOU!

YOU CAN BE SUCCESSFUL in relationships as you become more aware the EVERYONE has both positive and negative qualities to the same degree.  THERE IS NOT ANY PERSON ON EARTH WHO ONLY HAS positive trait!  THIS INCLUDES YOU!  YOU ARE PERFECTLY BALANCED with an equal number of positive and negative qualities.

When I share with you about loving yourself for exactly who you are, I mean FINDING THE PERCEIVED POSITIVE qualities within you in YOUR UNIQUE FORM.  ANY QUALITY in someone else you admire, you also have!  FIND IT IN YOU and see the unique form you have it is.  Open yourself up to looking at the perceived negative qualities you have and see HOW THEY SERVE YOU AND SERVE OTHERS!.  As you do this you begin to relax in the confidence and magnificence of you and WHAT YOU REALLY HAVE TO OFFER IN RELATIONSHIPS!

By doing this process YOU WILL HAVE LESS DESPERATION and a greater ability to make WISER RELATIONSHIP DECISIONS about the type of people with  who you want to spend your valuable time. YOU THEN HAVE THE FREEDOM to be with someone BECAUSE YOU ENJOY THEIR COMPANY, not merely because you are desperate to have someone complete you!

You DESERVE TO HAVE AN AMAZING #10 Relationship in your life if YOU WANT TO have one.  Don’t let anyone or anything cause you to lose this opportunity in your life!!! ( being in a fulfilled relationship rather than one of incompleteness – needing to be completed).  YOU ARE CAPABLE of having this, as you learn to LOVE YOURSELF EXACTLY AS YOU ARE, causing you to become magnetic and easily attracting those whom you would LOVE TO SPEND TIME WITH!

Want to learn how to love your perceived negative traits?  Want to learn how to not be desperate and repulsive to those with whom you would like to share a relationship? Are you sick and tired of being without relationship and you are finally willing to learn, so you can have a different experience with relationships?

Contact Robinson Equation today and obtain a free 20 min. consult via phone or Skype and begin your journey of increasing your love of self and creating a #10 relationships in YOUR LIFE TODAY!

CC:  Janis Robinson, MBA with Robinson Equation, Inc.

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The Idiotic Things Mothers Tell You

Posted on January 10, 2011 by

Last week I had the interesting opportunity to have a mother tell me a story about her 41 year old single daughter (Let’s call her Sally) who had never been married. The mother relayed Sally had had many short lived relationships, though didn’t seem to have it in her to be dependent on someone.

The most recent problem for Sally was  she had been interested in a guy for about 1 year or more, had been in touch via email and phone, though due to distance never really saw the fellow in person.  Sally had begun to question whether this man was interested in her or not, as he didn’t seem to take the relationship to the next level. She also had felt like she was the one who was ALWAYS initiating the communication.

Sally proceeded to test him.  She didn’t call or email for 2 months. The results were the guy finally contacted after a couple of months and said; “What’s going on, I feel like I haven’t heard from you for a while?”

MY FIRST THOUGHT WAS:  Sally, HE IS NOT IN TO YOU!

Sally’s mom began to PROUDLY share the infinite wisdom she had shared with her daughter.

Sally’s mom went into a lengthy description of how MEN ARE LIKE DOGS. When you are right in front of them they pay attention to you, though if someone throws a bone they immediately become distracted and forget about you.  Sally’s Mom had told her not to worry if this guy hadn’t talked to her in a couple of months.  She loving told her daughter, he is interested in you, he just got distracted.

LISTEN TO ME… AND LISTEN TO ME NOW!  THAT IS BALONEY!

NO MAN, is going to be distracted for 2 months without contacting a women he is interested in. A man to does that is NOT IN TO YOU!  He is either dating someone else during the time and is distracted by that, or he really likes you as a FRIEND ONLY, therefore unwilling to put forth undue efforts of maintaining a relationship!

DON’T FALL for Sally’s MOM’s BALONEY!

When a man considers you worth it, he will continue to make contact and attempt to spend time with you. He will not disappear for weeks or months at a time without communicating with you.  THE ONLY EXCEPTION TO THIS IS WAR, and even these days, military men have access to text messaging , email and Skype.  YOU PUT FORTH EFFORT to SPEND TIME WITH OR COMMUNICATE WITH THOSE WHOM YOU VALUE!  WHO YOU ARE INTO.

Quit telling yourself this silly tales:  Well maybe something happened to him, maybe he lost my number, maybe he lost my email address, maybe he is overwhelmed with work, maybe he is ill, maybe he has a family crisis…MAYBE, MAYBE, MAYBE!  BS!!!!!!!!!!

Quit making excuses FOR A GUY WHO IS NOT IN TO YOU!  Own your value and know YOU ARE WORTH A MAN MOVING A MOUNTAIN TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU!  (I am not suggesting to test them to extremes).  Be aware, when you are valuable to a man, he will put forth the effort to talk to you, see you and keep in touch!

MEN also do the SAME!  Do not allow yourself to continue to be strung along because of your silly perceptions of relationships!  If the guy is into you- HE WILL COMMUNICATE WITH YOU!  HE WILL MAKE EFFORT TO spend time with you and talk with you!

TRUST ME, I learned this from personal experience!  THIS WAS NOT an easy thing to get through my thick skull either! When I did finally get it, I MET MY HUSBAND!

Sally, if you are reading this blog… MOVE ON! There is a man out there who would LOVE TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU and communicate with you!  He is not a stupid DOG!  Set yourself free from this one and allow yourself to see THE MILLIONS OF OPPORTUNITIES YOU REALLY DO HAVE when it comes to dating and relationships!

Want to learn if that guy is really into you or not?  Want to make certain you are not wasting your time trying to be in relationship with someone who doesn’t?  Want quit wasting time on those who are not into you?  Contact Robinson Equation, Inc by email and set up your free 20 minute consultation today!

YOU DESERVE TO HAVE THE RELATIONSHIP OF YOUR DREAMS! You are worthy of a man going through the effort to be with you!  Learn how today!…

CC:  Janis Robinson, MBA  Robinson Equation, Inc.

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Feeling Safe Expressing Yourself in Relationship

Posted on January 5, 2011 by

It can be challenging feeling safe in a relationship to share how you really feel with the other person. Sometimes you get frustrated and you think the other person ‘should just know how you feel.’ Other times you are embarrassed to say how you feel because you the other person will ‘think you are nuts.’  Another challenge that comes with telling others how you really feel is the protection of the ego-not wanting to appear weak to others- the fear they might ‘eat you alive’ if you gave them enough ammunition.

So, how do you get past this ‘head trash’ to share with others how you really feel?

Maybe you are asking the question right now…”Janis, why would I even want to bother doing this?  Are you nuts?”

Despite what my mental diagnosis may be, communicating with others helps you to break false beliefs you may have about yourself and others.  You might be thinking right now,… “SO WHAT!?”

One of the most valuable lessons you learn in your life is unconditional love of yourself and others. You are continually growing and stretching and experiencing new ways of looking at things in your life.  As you grow with unconditional love for yourself- your vitality increases, your self confidence increases, yourself worth increases, and you begin to realize you are magnificent exactly as you are.  When you go about this journey you initiate healing within your body making you less susceptible to disease, health complications and much more.

The only thing blocking you from your Soul and your direct connection to God is your illusions and beliefs that are one sided (only good or only bad).  One sided beliefs block you from an open heart and directly receiving the wisdom of God/Universe.  These one sided beliefs can cause many illnesses, pain, and mental anguish decreasing your self esteem, self confidence and drain your vitality.

One of the most profound ways to help break false belief patterns is to speak out loud what you are thinking in your head. You may already know it sounds silly, though speaking it out loud to the person you are in relationship with creates an incredible opportunity for you to hear it and also see the expression on their face.  It helps you to know that your belief of yourself or your experience may not have been accurate, rather it may have been quite unrealistic.

The second reason to express how you feel to the other person is to let them know your experience. No matter how amazing humans transform, the other person is still unable to read your mind.  They may never have consider the opinion belief you may be offering.  It can give them insight and help them broaden their perspective of your relationship as well.

Lastly, learning how to share what you really feel breaks the beliefs of self preservation that run so deeply within yourself that has been ingrained through history of humans DNA. This perception of self preservation can be keeping you from obtaining your dreams as you are unwilling to learn new ways to risk, that really have no risk at all.  Your ego freaks out to protect yourself, though when your ego does that, it is really helping you to stay stuck where you are.

If you have no desire to have more or better for yourself in your life, then let your ego rule. If you have dreams and aspirations of what you would like to create and a burning desire to live your purpose, then consider helping your ego to grow.  Remember,  tell your ego you are thankful for the warning!  Let your ego know you merely just want to try a new strategy and see if it works.

So, are you ready to take the next step in your life to increase your unconditional love for yourself and others? Are you ready to learn and risk how to effectively communicate with others and break your patterns of false beliefs?

Want support transitioning into this new level of communication of the truth of your ‘head trash?’  Want to learn more skills in helping your ego to feel ‘safe’ in your exploration of increasing your vitality and health in sharing effective communications with your significant other?

Contact Robinson Equation today and get your free 20 min. consultation to assist you in creating the relationship of your dreams!

CC: Janis Robinson, RN, MBA with Robinson Equation, Inc

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Believing You are Good Enough for that Special Someone

Posted on January 3, 2011 by

People are so silly at times.  You meet someone you perceive as really amazing and then you think, “Oh, I do hope they can like me!”  You say this to yourself knowing there are things about yourself that are terrible and that you do not want anyone to know about you.

STOP!

THINK!

Despite what you may or may not believe there is one fact about YOU!  You have ALL OF THE EXACT SAME TRAITS as the other person you are so afraid won’t like you if they find out about your achilles heels! EVERY ONE IS NICE and MEAN!  Everyone is put together and also equally a slob.  What is unique about each individual is how they personally display their traits.

Take for instance a man who works 60+ hours a week and doesn’t spend as much time with his wife.  He is having an affair with work.  This is fine as long as this time commitment is aligned with the wife’s highest values as well of her own personal independence.

The same man could work 40 hours a week and spend 20 hours at the gym.  He is now having an affair with keeping his body beautiful.

Neither way of displaying the trait of “affair” is good or bad. There are multiple ways to display this trait of “affair.”  Some individuals perceive the only way to display the trait of “affair” is to have sexual relations with another.  This is a false belief system that allows others to not be accountable for the form they exhibit the traits to the same degree!

WHAT IS IT, ABOUT YOU, which you perceive is so terrible for the other person to find out about you?

NOW, HOW DO YOU NOW DEAL WITH THIS UNCOVERED FEAR?

How does this perceived terrible trait you exhibit SERVE YOU in the form it is in?  How does this perceived terrible trait you have SERVE OTHERS in the form it is in.

HERE IS THE MAJOR IMPORTANT KEY!  WHERE DOES THIS person, whom you want to desperately impress, have this exact same trait to the same degree in a different form?

 

I HEAR YOU LOUD AND CLEAR!  TRUST ME, EVERYONE HAS EVERY TRAIT!  I WILL BET MY LIFE ON IT!

 

Now that you have found the form of the other person where they display that perceived negative trait, ask yourself this question; how would you displaying it in that form be a drawback or disservice to you and others?

 

WHY WOULD YOU WASTE YOUR VALUEABLE TIME DOING THIS?

Simple, as long as you are thinking someone is better than you or worse than you- YOU ARE NOT REALLY ALLOWING THEM INTO YOUR HEART!  When YOU SEE your MAGNIFICANT EXACTLY as YOU ARE – you feel loveable, and increased self esteem.  YOU BEGING TO KNOW- No matter what you do or do not do, you are worthy of love as all traits equally serve and disserve.

HOW DOES THIS SPECIFICALLY HELP YOU IN RELATIONSHIPS????

You get to quit having crazy life experiences of drama stories to share with the world and YOU GET TO EXPEREICNE  TRUE  UNCONDITIONAL  LOVE   OF SELF  AND   OTHERS!

YOU GET OUT OF YOUR WAY to having the relationship of your dreams! A NUMBER 10 RELATIONSHIP that will have an equal amount of CHALLENGE and SUPPORT to help your relationships to continue to grow forward.

 

Want to learn more about having number 10 relationships?  Want to learn how to see your perceived negative traits as beneficial to you and others?  Want to learn how to transform your experience of relationships?

Contact Robinson Equation today to learn how to create number 10 relationships in YOUR LIFE NOW!

 

CC:  Janis Robinson, MBA with Robinson Equation Inc.

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You Want Me to Tell Him I Like Him? Are YOU NUTS?

Posted on December 22, 2010 by

People are so funny when it comes to relationships.  When I say this, I am talking about both YOU and ME!

There are THOUSANDS OF relationship books published.  New authors come out every year, and yet we continue to devour the content to learn how to work with relationships better in our lives!  Some of you appear to be naturally successful, and others perceive they need to work more on themselves.  The biggest reason for some to endeavor to work on relationships is:  You are not in one and would like to be, your  in one where you feel it is broken, or you want to get out of one without making the same mistake next time.

Regardless of who you are, or what your strategy is, it has brought you to this moment.

When I was younger I was completely clueless of how to be in a relationship and still have my own life! I was so desperate to be in a relationship, whenever I started a relationship, I quit doing all of the things I loved and only did what the guy who I was attracted to wanted to do.  How freakin’ pathetic is that!  No wonder I was considered to be quite repulsive to boys, or at least I felt repulsive.

With experience and learning I began to realize how important it was that I still did the things I like to do.  Instead of desperately spending every waking moment with the boy I liked, my relationships worked better when we did things together and did things apart. The not completely loosing myself in the relationship was successful in helping me not be a DEAD WEIGHT to my lover. I also began to see how I was significantly more attractive to whom I was dating because it gave them a sense of a little competition to work to keep me.  You are so much more attractive to who you like when you HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE!

As people sometimes do, I may have went to the extreme the other way of become OVERLY INDEPENDENT IN MY STRATEGY OF PLAYING ‘hard to get.’

I was missing out on some fabulous relationships because of my fear of being truthful about how I felt about the other person.  I had somehow confused my idea of ‘playing hard to get’ to NEVER TELLING THE OTHER PERSON I LIKED THEM.

WOW… How could I have missed such a rudimentary point? I am certain you know someone who may have missed this point as well.  You know… the crazy belief that somehow the other person knows that I like them despite how I may be treating them in my efforts to play hard to get.  During that time it baffled me that men didn’t seem to understand I liked them  much to my MANY giggles now at my silliness at the time.

Telling someone you like them DOES NOT MAKE YOU DESPERATE! Being desperate is when you have not life, you sit by the phone hopelessly waiting for them to call, and ALWAYS COMPLETELY REARRANGING YOUR LIFE to do what they want to do.

Maintain your independence in a relationship.  Go do things with your friends, things you like to do independently, and also make time for your special someone.  If your special someone is worth it (they have to put forth effort too!), they will endeavor to schedule time to be with you. IF YOU REALLY LIKE THEM- LET THEM KNOW so they know putting forth effort it is worth their time.

YOU CAN DO THIS!  Being vulnerable (not desperate), and letting them know you like them WILL OPEN UP NEW relationship opportunities.  THIS WILL MOVE YOU CLOSER to your “Number 10″ relationship of your dreams.

Have questions about your relationships?  Want to work toward a balance of independence and interdependence  in your relationships?  Want to learn how keep the balance of spending time with them, and also having your own life independent of them?  Ready to have a “Number 10” relationship?

Contact Robinson Equation through Email or the Website and learn more about consulting services provided for these areas.

YOU TO CAN BE SUCCESSFUL IN RELATIONSHIPS!  It is only your mind games that are getting in your way!

CC:  Janis Robinson, MBA  Robinson Equation, Inc.  December 22, 2010

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Been in Relationship a While? Still Improving Communication?

Posted on December 13, 2010 by

Are you getting permanent ‘no’s in request to your needs, ideas or desires?  Is a merely a ‘no’ for right now and a possible yes in 1 hour, few hours, few days, maybe next week?  DID YOU CLARIFY?

Do you get mad and angry at your partner NOT DOING THINGS YOU EXPECT TO BE DONE?  Did you ask them to do them, or are you just mad they didn’t read your mind?

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